me and my girlfriend are enaged and are having problems and i need some advise. well the first thing is my girlfriend's grandma does not like me and we have plans to get married the end of june. i have some people offer to help get it together. The other thing is we fight all the time and never agree on the same thing; we have an 8 mouth old baby and i want us to be together for ever, i just need some advise on how to keep us going without no one trying to interfere with us like her grandma. I've helped her grandma many times and i dont know what i did wrong. Well if you can write me back with some answers well thanks.

Thanks for writing. We are not counselors with degrees, just life's experiences is the advice we pass on to those who ask.

Not knowing all sides of the problem, I can only address what you have expressed. You don't tell me your age, but I gather through your letter that both of you are young. That's great that you are pledging your commitment to Megan and your 8 month old child, that says a lot about your character. Marriage is a very serious commitment and should not be taken lightly. I would suggest some counseling before marriage. A lot of couples go into marriage, not knowing anything about it. You have already hit a bump in the road with outside family issues. Are you ready to press through this trial and gain the victory? This is just a small example of what comes along on the marriage highway. For better or worse, those are powerful and meaningful words.

There is nothing abnormal about wanting people not to interfere in your lives. Megan's grandma may not be trying to interfere, she may be have concerns about your relationship and the well being for Megan and child. This could be manifested by being rude or showing a dislike for you. The best way to approach a problem is through communication. Talk to grandma and ask her what is bothering her and hopefully she will open up to you. There could be many reasons why she is acting the way she is..only communication will open the door to understanding and resolve the problem. Express your frustration on the interfering and explain to her how it is effecting your relationship to Megan. You and Megan are probably fighting so much because of the strain of the outside interference coming against your relationship.

Your priorities are to your child and Megan. Make mature decisions for both.

Ariel