I have betrayed my husband in several lies over the year and he has found out about them. I did not deny that I was wrong, what he had heard was more extreme than what really happen but that's not the point. In order to move forward in our marriage, I have to regain his trust. How do I go about doing so? We have discussed the problem and addressed very openly and honestly. We both want our marriage to last, but we don't know how to go about doing so. Can anyone give me some heads up on gaining his trust back?

Trust is one of the most important characteristics in a relationship; it's the glue that binds two people together. Not only in intimate relationships, but also between friends, family and working relationships. Trust is an integral part of all relationships. When trust is broken or damaged, everyone suffers, and it is difficult for people to rebuild that which they thought was on solid foundation. You stated that lying was the reason that trust was broken, by what you wrote it was someone else who exposed the untruth.

First of all, you are not the first person to lie or will you be the last. I'm not making excuses for you, but at the same time beating yourself up over it will not change the problem you are experiencing. What exactly is a lie and what will it do? Lying will destroy ourselves and those around us. It underestimates our relationship with others as well as alienates us from God.

Communication is the key to successful relationships. Talk to your husband about the lies that were told, communicate why you said them and ask him for forgiveness. Be sincere with him as far as moving forward and gaining his trust in you back; it may not happen overnight so don't get discouraged. Sometimes broken trust will take some time to mend and heal, but make the commitment to your husband to always be honest. As you have learned, it's much better to be honest up front than to lie and be painfully found out down the road.

Lastly, can the trust be rebuilt? This clearly depends on whether you and your husband are ready and willing to take corrective action. In other words, he may be able to let go of the lies that were told to him, he might be able to understand you and forgive what was told to him, but if he does not see evidence of your willingness to make changes, it may not be possible for him to trust you again. Clearly, rebuilding trust is a gradual process that can take a while to happen.

Remember: "Whoever can be trusted with little, and be trusted with much" Luke 16:10

Much success in rebuilding your relationship with your husband.